{"id":14786,"date":"2014-02-12T11:17:57","date_gmt":"2014-02-12T10:17:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/?p=14786"},"modified":"2014-02-12T11:23:49","modified_gmt":"2014-02-12T10:23:49","slug":"prvni-homosexualove-se-stali-pestouny","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/?p=14786","title":{"rendered":"Prvn\u00ed homosexu\u00e1lov\u00e9 se stali p\u011bstouny"},"content":{"rendered":"

Vladim\u00edr Patera a nevidom\u00fd Franti\u0161ek Ba\u010fura jsou v \u010cesku prvn\u00ed gayov\u00e9, kte\u0159\u00ed si do p\u011bstounsk\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010de vzali z d\u011btsk\u00e9ho domova mal\u00e9 handicapovan\u00e9 chlapce. Zat\u00edmco osvojit si d\u00edt\u011b na\u0161e z\u00e1kony gay\u016fm a lesb\u00e1m neumo\u017e\u0148uj\u00ed, vstupovat do p\u011bstounsk\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010de mohou.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ministr pro lidsk\u00e1 pr\u00e1va Ji\u0159\u00ed Dienstbier chce ale prosadit, aby homosexu\u00e1ln\u00ed p\u00e1ry mohly d\u011bti i adoptovat. Jak se gay\u016fm z na\u0161\u00ed report\u00e1\u017ee da\u0159\u00ed d\u011bti vychov\u00e1vat v p\u011bstounsk\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010di a jak na n\u011b reaguje jejich okol\u00ed? Uvid\u00edte v report\u00e1\u017ei \u010cesk\u00e9 televize v po\u0159adu Report\u00e9\u0159i.<\/p>\n

Jak vlastn\u011b v\u00e1s napadlo jako vstoupit do p\u011bstounsk\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010de s klukama?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Vladim\u00edr PATERA, p\u011bstoun:
\nNo, v podstat\u011b to bylo tak, \u017ee jsme cht\u011bli tvo\u0159it n\u011bjakou jakoby, jak se \u0159\u00edk\u00e1, \u00faplnou rodinu, ale cht\u011bli jsme prost\u011b m\u00edt samoz\u0159ejm\u011b i tu mo\u017enost vychov\u00e1vat d\u011bti a m\u00edt je jakoby za sv\u00fd.<\/p>\n

V \u010cesku \u017eij\u00ed des\u00edtky homosexu\u00e1ln\u00edch p\u00e1r\u016f, je\u017e maj\u00ed v p\u011bstounsk\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010di mal\u00e9 d\u011bti p\u016fvodn\u011b z d\u011btsk\u00fdch domov\u016f. Vladim\u00edr s Franti\u0161kem jsou v\u0161ak \u00fapln\u011b prvn\u00ed gayov\u00e9 p\u011bstouni, kte\u0159\u00ed vychov\u00e1vaj\u00ed d\u011bti dv\u011b. Mlad\u0161\u00ed Martin je zat\u00edm na rozd\u00edl od star\u0161\u00edho Kry\u0161tofa v takzvan\u00e9 p\u0159edp\u011bstounsk\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010di. Na prosp\u011b\u0161nost v\u00fdchovy d\u011bt\u00ed v p\u011bstounsk\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010di homosexu\u00e1ly, kter\u00fd z\u00e1kon povoluje, nen\u00ed mezi odbornou psychologickou obc\u00ed jednozna\u010dn\u00fd n\u00e1zor.<\/strong><\/p>\n

J<\/strong>aroslav \u0160TURMA, d\u011btsk\u00fd psycholog:
\nD\u00edt\u011b, pokud je to jen mo\u017en\u00e9, m\u00e1 m\u00edt kolem sebe rodi\u010de, nebo n\u00e1hradn\u00ed rodi\u010de, matku a otce, mu\u017ee a \u017eenu.<\/p>\n

Jeron\u00fdm KLIME\u0160, psycholog:
\nTy r\u016fzn\u00e9 \u00fachylky, kter\u00e9 doprov\u00e1zej\u00ed homosexualitu mnohem v\u00edce ne\u017e heterosexu\u00e1ly, a psychologov\u00e9 nemaj\u00ed v\u017edy to \u0161t\u011bst\u00ed a ani neb\u00fdvaj\u00ed tak dob\u0159\u00ed, aby byli schopni tyto \u00fachylky odchytnout, kdy\u017e se tam zjev\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Radek PT\u00c1\u010cEK, d\u011btsk\u00fd psycholog:
\nJ\u00e1 je zn\u00e1m u\u017e skoro 2 roky. Je to samoz\u0159ejm\u011b z p\u011bstounsk\u00e9ho i lidsk\u00e9ho hlediska netypick\u00fd p\u00e1r, ale u t\u011bchto obou dvou p\u00e1n\u016f vn\u00edm\u00e1m, \u017ee jak jejich osobnost, tak jejich lidstv\u00ed je skute\u010dn\u011b na vysoce kvalitn\u00ed \u00farovni.<\/p>\n

Ne\u017e d\u00e1me v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed prostor odborn\u00edk\u016fm, vy\u0159\u00edkat si sv\u00e9 protich\u016fdn\u00e9 n\u00e1zory na v\u00fdchovu d\u011bt\u00ed homosexu\u00e1ly, pronikn\u011bme trochu do \u017eivota t\u00e9to neobvykl\u00e9 rodiny.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Franti\u0161ek BA\u010eURA, p\u011bstoun:
\nVy\u0161lo to od Vladim\u00edra. J\u00e1 jsem to musel n\u011bkolik tejdn\u016f v sob\u011b zpracov\u00e1vat a hledat v sob\u011b, jestli na todle to jsem p\u0159ipravenej a zralej. Zjistil jsem, \u017ee asi jo.<\/p>\n

PATERA :
\nJe pravda, \u017ee j\u00e1 jsem tenhle n\u00e1pad m\u011bl v hlav\u011b od n\u011bjakejch svejch 19 let. Akor\u00e1t jsem samoz\u0159ejm\u011b je\u0161t\u011b nev\u011bd\u011bl, jak to v\u0161echno bude …<\/p>\n

Franti\u0161ek s Vladim\u00edrem spolu \u017eij\u00ed v registrovan\u00e9m partnerstv\u00ed. Franti\u0161ek je vysoko\u0161kolsky vzd\u011blan\u00fd knihovn\u00edk a Vladim\u00edr vystudoval obchodn\u00ed akademii pro zrakov\u011b posti\u017een\u00e9. Je toti\u017e prakticky nevidom\u00fd. Dnes \u0161estilet\u00e9ho Kry\u0161tofa a \u010dty\u0159let\u00e9ho Martina si vzali z d\u011btsk\u00e9ho domova p\u0159ed 2 lety. Nikdo jin\u00fd tyto t\u011b\u017ece fyzicky i du\u0161evn\u011b handicapovan\u00e9 d\u011bti do p\u011bstounstv\u00ed necht\u011bl. Podobnou zku\u0161enost m\u011bl v d\u011btstv\u00ed i Vladim\u00edr, kter\u00fd vyr\u016fstal tak\u00e9 v d\u011btsk\u00e9m domov\u011b.<\/strong><\/p>\n

PATERA,
\nPo d\u011btsk\u00fd mozkov\u00fd obrn\u011b m\u00e1m nevyvinut\u00fd o\u010dn\u00ed nervy. Jsem v p\u00e1smu prakticky nevidom\u00fd. Ale nicm\u00e9n\u011b je to sp\u00ed\u0161 o tom, \u017ee se \u010dlov\u011bk nau\u010d\u00ed d\u00edvat tro\u0161ku jinak. M\u00e1 jinej pohled v tom slova smyslu, \u017ee t\u0159eba nerozezn\u00e1v\u00e1te barvy, nevid\u00edte do obli\u010deje lidem a tak d\u00e1le, ale s t\u00edm se samoz\u0159ejm\u011b d\u00e1 \u017e\u00edt. A i Martin poznal, \u017ee m\u00e1m n\u011bjakou vadu. Tak\u017ee kdy\u017e pot\u0159ebuju n\u011bco naj\u00edt, tak Martin p\u0159isko\u010d\u00ed a pom\u00e1h\u00e1 hned, proto\u017ee on m\u00e1 o\u010di zdrav\u00e9. Celej postup je tak, \u017ee v podstat\u011b oslov\u00edte odd\u011blen\u00ed soci\u00e1ln\u011bpr\u00e1vn\u00ed ochrany d\u011bt\u00ed, tam sep\u00ed\u0161ete n\u011bjakou prvotn\u00ed \u017e\u00e1dost k tomu, \u017ee chcete se st\u00e1t p\u011bstounem. A za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 cel\u00fd to martyrium p\u0159\u00edpravy na p\u011bstounskou p\u00e9\u010di.<\/p>\n

Kate\u0159ina \u0160LESINGEROV\u00c1, vedouc\u00ed odd\u011blen\u00ed n\u00e1hradn\u00ed rodinn\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010de MPSV:
\nP\u0159i tom rozhodov\u00e1n\u00ed o tom, kam bude d\u00edt\u011b sv\u011b\u0159eno, tak se vyhodnocuje nejen\u00a0 konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed \u017eadatel, jeden z toho p\u00e1ru, kdo \u017e\u00e1d\u00e1 o to d\u00edt\u011b, ale samoz\u0159ejm\u011b se vyhodnocuje cel\u00e9 rodinn\u00e9 prost\u0159ed\u00ed. A v\u017edycky se rozhoduje s ohledem na z\u00e1jem, nejlep\u0161\u00ed z\u00e1jem d\u00edt\u011bte.<\/p>\n

PATERA,
\nV\u017edycky jsme byli posuzovan\u00fd oba dva. A v r\u00e1mci psychologickejch test\u016f jsou potom samoz\u0159ejm\u011b n\u011bjak\u00fd \u0161kol\u00edc\u00ed, \u0161kol\u00edc\u00ed programy pro ty p\u011bstouny… na Kry\u0161tofa jsme \u010dekali\u00a0 2,5 roku.<\/p>\n

P\u0159ece jen v\u00e1m byli p\u0159id\u011blen\u00ed kluci trochu handicapovan\u00ed, nec\u00edtili jste to i vy jako jist\u00fd handicap?<\/strong><\/p>\n

BA\u010eURA:
\nV pr\u016fb\u011bhu cel\u00fd procedury jsme zji\u0161\u0165ovali, \u017ee na\u0161e prvotn\u00ed p\u0159edstavy nejsou takov\u00fd, jak\u00fd bychom si p\u0159edstavovali a „slevovali“ jsme ze sv\u00fdch n\u00e1rok\u016f.<\/p>\n

\u010c\u00e1st odborn\u00e9 obce nesouhlas\u00ed s liber\u00e1ln\u00ed prax\u00ed v mo\u017enosti p\u011bstounstv\u00ed gay.<\/strong><\/p>\n

KLIME\u0160, psycholog:
\nStabilita homosexu\u00e1ln\u00edch vztah\u016f je mnohon\u00e1sobn\u011b men\u0161\u00ed, stejn\u011b tak i promiskuita je mnohon\u00e1sobn\u011b v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed. J\u00e1 si nedok\u00e1\u017eu p\u0159edstavit, \u017ee by p\u0159i t\u00e9 b\u00edd\u011b, kterou maj\u00ed psychologick\u00e9 posudky obecn\u011b a n\u00e1hradn\u00ed rodinn\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010de taky, \u017ee by byli, \u017ee bysme byli schopn\u00fd odchytat t\u0159eba ty p\u0159\u00edpady, kter\u00e9 n\u00e1m cht\u011bj\u00ed kamuflovat n\u011bjakou jinou \u00fachylku.<\/p>\n

Petr WEISS, sexuolog:
\nProb\u011bhlo mnoho v\u00fdzkum\u016f, kter\u00e9 se t\u00fdkaly d\u011bt\u00ed z rodin vychov\u00e1van\u00fdch jednopohlavn\u00edm rodi\u010dovsk\u00fdm p\u00e1rem. A ty v\u00fdzkumy uk\u00e1zaly jednozna\u010dn\u011b, \u017ee d\u011bti z t\u011bchto rodin zaprv\u00e9 nemaj\u00ed \u017e\u00e1dnou poruchu identity, \u017e\u00e1dnou poruchu sexu\u00e1ln\u00ed orientace, \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e9 zv\u00fd\u0161en\u00e9 neurotick\u00e9 p\u0159\u00edznaky, a co je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9, nemaj\u00ed ani hor\u0161\u00ed pozici v kolektivu vrstevn\u00edk\u016f.<\/p>\n

Je\u0161t\u011b p\u0159ed rokem byl jeden z na\u0161ich nejv\u00fdznamn\u011bj\u0161\u00edch d\u011btsk\u00fdch psycholog\u016f Jaroslav \u0160turma jen pro takzvanou p\u00e9\u010di plnosti, tedy n\u00e1hradn\u00ed rodi\u010dovstv\u00ed pouze mu\u017ee a \u017eeny. Ale dnes s\u00e1m p\u0159izn\u00e1v\u00e1, \u017ee ve slo\u017eit\u00e9m a prom\u011bnliv\u00e9m sv\u011bt\u011b jsou v\u00fdjime\u010dn\u011b mo\u017en\u00e9 i jin\u00e9 varianty.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0160TURMA, d\u011btsk\u00fd psycholog:
\nV\u00edme, \u017ee mnoho d\u011bt\u00ed roste nap\u0159\u00edklad v rodin\u00e1ch ne\u00fapln\u00fdch, tak\u017ee ch\u00e1pu to, \u017ee v tom dne\u0161n\u00edm slo\u017eit\u00e9m a prom\u011bnliv\u00e9m sv\u011bt\u011b fakticky padaj\u00ed v \u00favahu r\u016fzn\u00e9 formy, r\u016fzn\u00e9 kombinace p\u00e9\u010de. Tam, bych \u0159ekl, maj\u00ed sv\u00e9 m\u00edsto i gayov\u00e9, pokud p\u0159ijdou tam, kde nen\u00ed mo\u017eno t\u011bm d\u011btem nab\u00eddnout tu formu p\u00e9\u010de, kter\u00e1 by byla bli\u017e\u0161\u00ed t\u00e9 plnosti.<\/p>\n

Vy jste m\u011bl nakonec i kone\u010dn\u00e9 slovo, jestli se stanou p\u011bstouny nebo ne. Jak\u00e1 to byla komise?<\/strong><\/p>\n

PT\u00c1\u010cEK, d\u011btsk\u00fd psycholog:
\nByl to poradn\u00ed sbor ministerstva pr\u00e1ce a soci\u00e1ln\u00edch v\u011bc\u00ed. Tady jsme posuzovali, \u017ee m\u00e1me d\u00edt\u011b, kter\u00e9 m\u00e1 v\u00edce\u010detn\u00e9 v\u00fdvojov\u00e9 vady, kter\u00e9 m\u00e1 velmi mnoho specifick\u00fdch pot\u0159eb, a o takov\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b je naprosto minim\u00e1ln\u00ed z\u00e1jem.<\/p>\n

Aby se mohli starat o posti\u017een\u00e9 chlapce, museli se st\u00e1t p\u011bstouny na pln\u00fd \u00favazek. Franti\u0161ek zanechal sv\u00e9 pr\u00e1ce vedouc\u00edho v knihovn\u011b a Vladim\u00edr obchodov\u00e1n\u00ed s realitami.<\/strong><\/p>\n

BA\u010eURA,
\nNa Kry\u0161tofa beru v tom jeho druh\u00fdm stupni z\u00e1vislosti na pomoc druh\u00fd osoby asi 28 tis\u00edc. A v tom je i jakoby m\u016fj plat. Plat je t\u011bch 18 \u010dist\u00fdho.<\/p>\n

Hana HEJN\u00c1, Odbor soci\u00e1ln\u00edch v\u011bc\u00ed, Praha 12:
\nT\u011b\u017eko, \u017ee by to n\u011bkdo d\u011blal pro pen\u00edze, proto\u017ee ta p\u00e9\u010de je velmi n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00e1, a to nejenom finan\u010dn\u011b. Opravdu 24 hodin denn\u011b, 365 dn\u00ed v roce. Ten plat, za to by nikdo nepracoval.<\/p>\n

PATERA,
\nPen\u011bzma jsme sp\u00ed\u0161 spadli dol\u016f. Tak\u017ee v na\u0161em p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b ur\u010dit\u011b nejde zrovna o to, \u017ee bysme m\u011bli z\u00e1m\u011br , \u017ee si vememe d\u011bti a budeme vyd\u011bl\u00e1vat pen\u00edze. V tom d\u011btsk\u00fdm domov\u011b se mu asi nev\u011bnovali tak, jak by m\u011bli. Sami jsme byli sv\u011bdkem, kdy\u017e jsme chodili tam na n\u00e1v\u0161t\u011bvy, \u017ee v\u016fbec nem\u011bl naslouch\u00e1tka. Museli jsme teprve, a\u017e jsem si st\u011b\u017eoval pan\u00ed \u0159editelce \u00fastavu, pro\u010d nem\u00e1 naslouch\u00e1tka, tak teprve pak je dost\u00e1val. Nerozum\u011bl n\u00e1m v\u016fbec, nesly\u0161el na jm\u00e9no. Tak\u017ee podle m\u00fdho to bylo d\u00edt\u011b, kter\u00fd nem\u011blo ani jm\u00e9no. \u0160li jsme jenom se pod\u00edvat prost\u011b kolem d\u011btsk\u00fdho domova. Tak v podstat\u011b auta pro n\u011bj byl \u00fapln\u00fd z\u00e1zrak, autobusy, lampy, prost\u011b v\u0161echno. Jo, to znamen\u00e1, \u017ee tam skute\u010dn\u011b byl zav\u0159enej mezi zdma.<\/p>\n

Marie MAL\u00c1, d\u011btsk\u00e1 l\u00e9ka\u0159ka:
\nNa oba p\u011bstouny se d\u00edt\u011b velmi t\u011b\u0161\u00ed a vlastn\u011b ten \u00fasp\u011bch nen\u00ed jenom jako na\u0161eho za\u0159\u00edzen\u00ed, ale mysl\u00edm si, \u017ee je to hlavn\u011b dan\u00e9 i tou velmi dobrou spoluprac\u00ed s tou p\u011bstounskou rodinou.<\/p>\n

Kate\u0159ina \u0160LESINGEROV\u00c1, vedouc\u00ed odd\u011blen\u00ed n\u00e1hradn\u00ed rodinn\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010de MPSV:
\nPokud je d\u00edt\u011b sv\u011b\u0159eno do p\u011bstounsk\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010de, tak vlastn\u011b to automaticky neru\u0161\u00ed pr\u00e1va p\u016fvodn\u00edch rodi\u010d\u016f d\u00edt\u011bte.<\/p>\n

Pro v\u00e1s to m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt p\u0159ece jenom dost velk\u00fd \u0161ok, proto\u017ee se t\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 ze dne na den m\u016f\u017ee st\u00e1t, \u017ee o n\u011b p\u0159ijdete.<\/strong><\/p>\n

PATERA,
\nU Kry\u0161tofa to nen\u00ed mo\u017en\u00fd v podstat\u011b, proto\u017ee matka u\u017e ho jednou m\u011bla v p\u00e9\u010di a jeliko\u017e je drogov\u011b z\u00e1visl\u00e1, a furt to jede d\u00e1l tak to je nere\u00e1ln\u00fd. A u Martina ta matka se ho z\u0159ekla. Ale jako p\u011bstounsk\u00e1 p\u00e9\u010de je v\u017edycky pot\u0159eba n\u00fdst tohle riziko, \u017ee kdykoliv se m\u016f\u017ee st\u00e1t, \u017ee prost\u011b matka po\u017e\u00e1d\u00e1 a hotovo.<\/p>\n

PT\u00c1\u010cEK, d\u011btsk\u00fd psycholog:
\nTy p\u011bstouni je skute\u010dn\u011b m\u016f\u017eou vyt\u00e1hnout a vypad\u00e1 to, \u017ee je vyt\u00e1hnou, a t\u011bm d\u011btem poskytnou naprosto jinou perspektivu. M\u016f\u017eou je podr\u017eet v b\u011b\u017en\u00e9 \u0161kole, kam by se pravd\u011bpodobn\u011b nedostaly, kdyby byly v d\u011bc\u00e1ku. A t\u00edm samoz\u0159ejm\u011b vytv\u00e1\u0159\u00ed \u00fapln\u011b jin\u00e9 podm\u00ednky pro jejich budouc\u00ed soci\u00e1ln\u00ed integraci. Tak\u017ee m\u016f\u017ee to zm\u011bnit cel\u00fd jejich \u017eivot.<\/p>\n

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