{"id":15188,"date":"2014-04-23T17:55:15","date_gmt":"2014-04-23T15:55:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/?p=15188"},"modified":"2014-04-23T17:55:15","modified_gmt":"2014-04-23T15:55:15","slug":"ma-se-rodina-starat-o-mentalne-postizeneho-ci-ne","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/?p=15188","title":{"rendered":"M\u00e1 se rodina starat o ment\u00e1ln\u011b posti\u017een\u00e9ho \u010di ne"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>\u00a0Sebeob\u011btov\u00e1n\u00ed matek &#8211; trpitelek m\u00e1 n\u011bkdy hysterick\u00fd charakter, m\u00edn\u00ed zn\u00e1m\u00fd psychiatr a publicista CYRIL H\u00d6SCHL&#8230;<!--more--><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Dobr\u00fd den, pane doktore, jsem spokojen\u00fd rodi\u010d \u010dty\u0159 d\u011bt\u00ed, druh\u00e9 je t\u011b\u017ece posti\u017een\u00e9, m\u00e1m velmi dobr\u00e9 man\u017eelstv\u00ed. S hromadou rozporupln\u00fdch pocit\u016f nar\u00e1\u017e\u00edm u\u017e n\u011bkolik m\u011bs\u00edc\u016f na \u010dl\u00e1nky pana Dole\u017eala, v nich\u017e se opakovan\u011b dozv\u00edd\u00e1m, \u017ee p\u00e9\u010de o ment\u00e1ln\u011b posti\u017een\u00e9ho je rodinu ni\u010d\u00edc\u00ed, matka je hysterka, kterou je mo\u017eno vyl\u00e9\u010dit, aby pochopila, jakou d\u011bl\u00e1 hloupost, a v\u0161echno v\u017edy sm\u011b\u0159uje k jasn\u00e9mu doporu\u010den\u00ed \u2013 str\u010dte ty d\u011bti do \u00fastavu. Asi je to n\u00e1zor pana Dole\u017eala, jej\u017e ov\u0161em po\u0159\u00e1d opakuje a \u010dte ho hodn\u011b lid\u00ed. S\u00e1m \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e9 d\u011bti nem\u00e1, tedy v\u016fbec netu\u0161\u00ed, co rodi\u010de vede k tomu, aby se starali i o ty m\u00e9n\u011b poveden\u00e9 potomky. M\u016f\u017eete, pros\u00edm, jemu a i jin\u00fdm lidem popsat, o kolik l\u00e9pe prosp\u00edv\u00e1 \u010dlov\u011bk ve sv\u00e9 rodin\u011b? \u017de i t\u011b\u017ece ment\u00e1ln\u011b posti\u017een\u00fd velmi intenz\u00edvn\u011b vn\u00edm\u00e1 a dok\u00e1\u017ee trp\u011bt pr\u00e1v\u011b z nepochopiteln\u00e9ho odlou\u010den\u00ed od matky. Nechci se do\u010dkat doby, kdy se budu muset omlouvat spole\u010dnosti za to, \u017ee se star\u00e1m o sv\u00e9 nedokonal\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b.<\/p>\n<p><strong>CYRIL H\u00d6SCHL<\/strong>: VEZMEME-LI PROBL\u00c9M ze \u0161iroka, m\u016f\u017eeme si p\u0159ipomenout, jak se v na\u0161ich kon\u010din\u00e1ch ve 20. stolet\u00ed zm\u011bnily spole\u010densk\u00e9 vztahy a s t\u00edm souvisej\u00edc\u00ed p\u00e9\u010de o jednotlivce. Zat\u00edmco d\u0159\u00edve v\u0161elijakou psychopatologii ust\u00e1ly rodiny uvnit\u0159 trojgenera\u010dn\u00edch uspo\u0159\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed, dnes je zach\u00e1zen\u00ed s obt\u00ed\u017en\u00fdmi jedinci &#8222;outsourcov\u00e1no&#8220; navenek. Nukle\u00e1rn\u00ed rodina se mnohdy rozpad\u00e1. Ohro\u017eeny jsou t\u00edm d\u011bti a sta\u0159\u00ed lid\u00e9. Ustupuje se od tradi\u010dn\u00edch hodnot. Nar\u016fst\u00e1 pocit opu\u0161t\u011bnosti a s t\u00edm souvisej\u00edc\u00edch poruch ve st\u00e1\u0159\u00ed (deprese, sebevra\u017edy). Povinnost \u017e\u00edt je nahrazov\u00e1na pr\u00e1vem zem\u0159\u00edt. A zat\u00edmco psychologie a medic\u00edna sn\u00e1\u0161ej\u00ed d\u016fkazy o nenahraditelnosti mate\u0159sk\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010de, o prosp\u011b\u0161nosti kojen\u00ed a o v\u00fdznamu rodiny, p\u00e9\u010de o problematick\u00e9 jedince se p\u0159en\u00e1\u0161\u00ed z jejich p\u0159irozen\u00e9ho prost\u0159ed\u00ed do zdravotnick\u00fdch soustav a soci\u00e1ln\u00edch z\u00e1chrann\u00fdch s\u00edt\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>Ani\u017e bych cht\u011bl jakkoli soudit V\u00e1\u0161 ideov\u00fd spor s JXD, mus\u00edm se ho tak\u00e9 trochu zastat. A\u010dkoli se s\u00e1m asi o nikoho nestar\u00e1, a nemluv\u00ed tedy z vlastn\u00ed zku\u0161enosti, pakli\u017ee se vyj\u00e1d\u0159il tak, jak p\u00ed\u0161ete (ne\u010detl jsem to), dotkl se d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9ho spole\u010densk\u00e9ho fenom\u00e9nu: man\u017eelstv\u00ed zat\u00ed\u017een\u00e1 p\u00e9\u010d\u00ed o posti\u017een\u00e9 jedince se \u010dasto rozpadaj\u00ed. Nav\u00edc sebeob\u011btov\u00e1n\u00ed matek-trpitelek m\u00e1 n\u011bkdy skute\u010dn\u011b hysterick\u00fd charakter.<\/p>\n<p>Probl\u00e9m tedy nen\u00ed ani tak v tom, \u017ee by nem\u011bl pravdu a Vy jednozna\u010dn\u011b ano, ale sp\u00ed\u0161 v tom, \u017ee r\u016fzn\u00e9 pravdy jsou v r\u016fzn\u00fdch situac\u00edch r\u016fzn\u011b poskl\u00e1d\u00e1ny a nelze je zev\u0161eobecnit. Setkal jsem se ve sv\u00e9 praxi s vylo\u017een\u011b toxick\u00fdmi matkami, je\u017e tak ochra\u0148ovaly a ope\u010dov\u00e1valy sv\u00e9 r\u016fzn\u011b naru\u0161en\u00e9 potomky, \u017ee je dovedly k naprost\u00e9mu zoufalstv\u00ed, z n\u011bho\u017e je horko t\u011b\u017eko zachra\u0148ovala psychiatrick\u00e1 hospitalizace. Na druhou stranu je mnoho rodi\u010d\u016f jako Vy, jejich\u017e psychologick\u00e1 i existenci\u00e1ln\u00ed prosp\u011b\u0161nost je pro d\u00edt\u011b v porovn\u00e1n\u00ed s jak\u00fdmkoli \u00fastavem nesporn\u00e1.<\/p>\n<p>Z t\u011bchto zku\u0161enost\u00ed lze odvodit, \u017ee ani v\u00fdsledky v\u00fdzkumu v t\u00e9to v\u011bci a Va\u0161e zku\u0161enost, ani kazuistiky zcela opa\u010dn\u00e9 a n\u00e1zory pana JXD nelze zev\u0161eobecnit jako jak\u00e9si pravidlo \u010di z\u00e1kon. Nav\u00edc negativa p\u016fsoben\u00ed obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9ho \u010dlena rodiny se net\u00fdkaj\u00ed jenom rodin s ment\u00e1ln\u011b posti\u017een\u00fdmi d\u011btmi, ale v podstat\u011b s jak\u00fdmkoli problematick\u00fdm jedincem, v\u010detn\u011b starc\u016f s demenc\u00ed \u010di d\u011bt\u00ed s onkologick\u00fdm onemocn\u011bn\u00edm.<\/p>\n<p>Ka\u017ed\u00e9ho, kdo se star\u00e1 o posti\u017een\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b a udr\u017e\u00ed d\u016fstojn\u00fd chod rodiny, si neoby\u010dejn\u011b v\u00e1\u017e\u00edm. Z\u00e1rove\u0148 uzn\u00e1v\u00e1m, \u017ee ne ka\u017ed\u00e9mu se to da\u0159\u00ed a \u0161kody n\u011bkdy b\u00fdvaj\u00ed zna\u010dn\u00e9. Pt\u00e1te-li se, \u010d\u00edm ty rozd\u00edly ve schopnosti \u00fasp\u011b\u0161n\u011b se ob\u011btovat mohou b\u00fdt d\u00e1ny, pak jednou z prokazateln\u00fdch souvislost\u00ed je n\u00e1bo\u017eenstv\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>V\u011b\u0159\u00edc\u00ed mohou n\u011bkdy takov\u00fd \u00fakol pova\u017eovat za zkou\u0161ku, v\u00fdzvu nebo i dar a ob\u011b\u0165 jim ne\u010din\u00ed takov\u00e9 pot\u00ed\u017ee jako bezbo\u017en\u00e9mu zbohatl\u00edkovi, jen\u017e by musel omezit fitness a m\u00edsto golfov\u00e9ho voz\u00edku tla\u010dit kole\u010dkov\u00e9 k\u0159eslo.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"mh-excerpt\"><p>\u00a0Sebeob\u011btov\u00e1n\u00ed matek &#8211; trpitelek m\u00e1 n\u011bkdy hysterick\u00fd charakter, m\u00edn\u00ed zn\u00e1m\u00fd psychiatr a publicista CYRIL H\u00d6SCHL&#8230;<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4002,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15188","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spolecnost"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15188","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=15188"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15188\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4002"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=15188"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=15188"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=15188"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}