{"id":23134,"date":"2015-10-19T06:48:51","date_gmt":"2015-10-19T04:48:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/?p=23134"},"modified":"2015-10-19T06:48:51","modified_gmt":"2015-10-19T04:48:51","slug":"lexpress-jak-si-vypestovat-sebeuctu-a-naucit-se-mit-rad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/?p=23134","title":{"rendered":"L&#8217;Express: Jak si vyp\u011bstovat sebe\u00factu a nau\u010dit se m\u00edt r\u00e1d"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Vyp\u011bstovat si spr\u00e1vnou sebe\u00factu nen\u00ed nic snadn\u00e9ho. Nicm\u00e9n\u011b je to v\u0161ak z\u00e1sadn\u011b d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 pro na\u0161i vnit\u0159n\u00ed rovnov\u00e1hu a osobnostn\u00ed rozvoj. Profesion\u00e1ln\u00ed postup, p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed, l\u00e1ska \u010di prost\u011b jen dobr\u00fd pocit ze sebe sama, to v\u0161e vy\u017eaduje minim\u00e1ln\u00ed sebe\u00factu. P\u0159esto se v\u011bt\u0161inou sp\u00ed\u0161e podce\u0148ujeme, ne\u017e abychom si uv\u011bdomili sv\u00e9 kvality, s\u00edlu a schopnosti, p\u00ed\u0161e francouzsk\u00fd t\u00fdden\u00edk L&#8217;Express.<\/strong> <!--more--><\/p>\n<p>ilustra\u010dn\u00ed foto: PhotoRack<br \/>\nAmerick\u00e1 psycholo\u017eka Susan Harterov\u00e1, kter\u00e1 se zab\u00fdvala ot\u00e1zkami sebe\u00facty mezi mlad\u00fdmi lidmi, nazna\u010duje p\u011bt hlavn\u00edch oblast\u00ed sebehodnocen\u00ed: v\u00fdsledky ve \u0161kole a ve sportu, akceptov\u00e1n\u00ed ze strany spole\u010dnosti, fyzick\u00fd vzhled a chov\u00e1n\u00ed. &#8222;Mohu b\u00fdt nap\u0159\u00edklad velmi dob\u0159e akceptov\u00e1na ve spole\u010dnosti, mohu m\u00edt p\u0159\u00e1tele, ale mohu trp\u011bt t\u00edm, \u017ee si nemohu koupit oble\u010den\u00ed stejn\u00e9 zna\u010dky jako maj\u00ed oni,&#8220; \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 Harterov\u00e1. K t\u011bmto p\u011bti oblastem p\u0159ipojuje psycholo\u017eka je\u0161t\u011b t\u0159i, kter\u00e9 plat\u00ed pro dosp\u011bl\u00e9 osoby: kompetence spojen\u00e9 se zam\u011bstn\u00e1n\u00edm, s citov\u00fdmi vztahy a se zachov\u00e1n\u00edm dobr\u00fdch p\u0159\u00e1tel. To n\u00e1m umo\u017e\u0148uje minimalizovat na\u0161e ne\u00fasp\u011bchy. Dejme v\u0161ak pozor na to, abychom ne\u00fasp\u011bch v jedn\u00e9 oblasti nevztahovali i na ty dal\u0161\u00ed a nedomn\u00edvali se nap\u0159\u00edklad, \u017ee nezdar v profesi znamen\u00e1, \u017ee v\u0161echno ostatn\u00ed u\u017e nem\u00e1 cenu.<br \/>\n&#8222;Akceptujte to, \u017ee nejste dokonal\u00ed,&#8220; zd\u016fraz\u0148uje Marie-Laure Cuzacqov\u00e1, psycholo\u017eka a konzultantka pro osobnostn\u00ed rozvoj. Jde o prvn\u00ed etapu sebe\u00facty. Je zbyte\u010dn\u00e9 usilovat o to, aby v\u00e1s akceptovali druz\u00ed, jestli\u017ee se neakceptujete sami.<br \/>\nPtejte se: co m\u00e1te r\u00e1di u sv\u00fdch p\u0159\u00e1tel? Jejich up\u0159\u00edmnost, respektov\u00e1n\u00ed ur\u010dit\u00fdch hodnot a respektov\u00e1n\u00ed t\u011bchto hodnot i u ostatn\u00edch. Pro\u010d se tedy ne\u0159\u00eddit t\u011bmito p\u0159\u00edklady, abyste se m\u011bli sami r\u00e1di? Sta\u010d\u00ed si polo\u017eit ty spr\u00e1vn\u00e9 ot\u00e1zky: chci skute\u010dn\u011b j\u00edt na tu ve\u010de\u0159i? Co pot\u0159ebuji, abych se te\u010f c\u00edtil dob\u0159e? Je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 um\u011bl formulovat sv\u00e9 po\u017eadavky jasn\u011b, odv\u00e1\u017eit se b\u00fdt sami sebou, ale z\u00e1rove\u0148 b\u00fdt vn\u00edmav\u00ed v\u016f\u010di ostatn\u00edm a nach\u00e1zet kompromis mezi vlastn\u00edm o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00edm a o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00edm druh\u00fdch.<br \/>\nUml\u010dte sv\u00e9ho vnit\u0159n\u00edho soudce. Jestli\u017ee nem\u00e1te valnou \u00factu sami k sob\u011b, automaticky v\u00e1s napadaj\u00ed my\u0161lenky: jsem nula, nikdy to nedok\u00e1\u017eu \u010di nikdo si m\u011b nev\u00e1\u017e\u00ed. Takov\u00e9 my\u0161lenky je mo\u017en\u00e9 vyt\u011bsnit a pt\u00e1t se: jsem k sob\u011b konstruktivn\u011b sebekritick\u00fd? Jak\u00e9 jsou prost\u0159edky \u010di cesty, jak bych to mohl ud\u011blat l\u00e9pe? Rovn\u011b\u017e m\u016f\u017eeme sv\u00e9 my\u0161lenky konfrontovat se skute\u010dnost\u00ed a zeptat se osoby, o n\u00ed\u017e si mysl\u00edte, \u017ee si v\u00e1s nev\u00e1\u017e\u00ed nebo v\u00e1s zpochyb\u0148uje, abyste se ujistili, \u017ee va\u0161e obavy nejsou podlo\u017een\u00e9.<br \/>\nOdva\u017eujte se \u0159\u00edkat NE. &#8222;Je to zp\u016fsob, jak si zachovat a uchr\u00e1nit sebe\u00factu t\u00edm, \u017ee d\u00e1v\u00e1te p\u0159ednost vlastn\u00edm pot\u0159eb\u00e1m, vlastn\u00ed energii, \u010dasu \u010di dokonce pen\u011bz\u016fm, abyste je v\u011bnovali na aktivity, kter\u00e9 pova\u017eujete za d\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00ed,&#8220; uv\u00e1d\u00ed Marie-Laure Cuzacqov\u00e1.<br \/>\nBu\u010fte p\u0159\u00edstupn\u00ed kritice a d\u00e1vejte si realistick\u00e9 c\u00edle. C\u00edl mus\u00ed b\u00fdt pragmatick\u00fd, \u00fam\u011brn\u00fd a dosa\u017eiteln\u00fd. Mus\u00ed odpov\u00eddat na\u0161im schopnostem a na\u0161\u00ed energii. P\u0159ipome\u0148me si, \u017ee sebe\u00facta roste \u010diny, mal\u00fdmi \u010di velk\u00fdmi ka\u017edodenn\u00edmu \u00fasp\u011bchy, nikoli iluzemi. N\u00edzk\u00e1 sebe\u00facta \u010dasto br\u00e1n\u00ed tomu, abychom naslouchali tomu, co je pro n\u00e1s dobr\u00e9, a v kritice spat\u0159ovali ur\u00e1\u017eku. Kritika ov\u0161em \u010dasto umo\u017e\u0148uje pokrok a vede k hlub\u0161\u00ed sebe\u00fact\u011b.<br \/>\nS nik\u00fdm se nesrovn\u00e1vejte a nikoho nenapodobujte. Osoby s n\u00edzkou sebe\u00factou maj\u00ed tendenci napodobovat vzory, jak to \u010din\u00ed ml\u00e1de\u017e. To v\u0161ak vede k pop\u00edr\u00e1n\u00ed vlastn\u00ed osobnosti, pot\u0159eb a tu\u017eeb. &#8222;Kolem n\u00e1s je mnoho lid\u00ed, kte\u0159\u00ed neok\u00e1zale prokazuj\u00ed ostatn\u00edm dobrodin\u00ed. M\u016f\u017eeme je pozorovat, diskutovat s nimi, u\u010dit se od nich, zkr\u00e1tka se jimi inspirovat,&#8220; konstatuje Marie-Laure Cuzacq.<br \/>\nChvalte druh\u00e9. Chv\u00e1la stimuluje pozitivn\u00ed pocity: Oba, ti kdo chv\u00e1l\u00ed, i ti, kdo chv\u00e1lu p\u0159ij\u00edmaj\u00ed, poci\u0165uj\u00ed uspokojen\u00ed. Abychom zachovali hodnotu chv\u00e1ly, mus\u00ed b\u00fdt up\u0159\u00edmn\u00e1 a nesm\u00ed se j\u00ed pou\u017e\u00edvat p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 \u010dasto.<br \/>\nPo\u017e\u00e1dejte o pomoc profesion\u00e1la. Jestli\u017ee jste u\u010dinili v\u0161e, co bylo ve va\u0161ich sil\u00e1ch, ale pocity vlastn\u00ed nicoty p\u0159evl\u00e1daj\u00ed, m\u016f\u017eete po\u017e\u00e1dat o pomoc terapeuta. V\u017edy je v\u0161ak t\u0159eba, aby \u0161lo o dobrovoln\u00e9 rozhodnut\u00ed.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"mh-excerpt\"><p>Vyp\u011bstovat si spr\u00e1vnou sebe\u00factu nen\u00ed nic snadn\u00e9ho. Nicm\u00e9n\u011b je to v\u0161ak z\u00e1sadn\u011b d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 pro na\u0161i vnit\u0159n\u00ed rovnov\u00e1hu a osobnostn\u00ed rozvoj. 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