{"id":23315,"date":"2015-11-02T10:04:14","date_gmt":"2015-11-02T09:04:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/?p=23315"},"modified":"2015-11-02T10:04:14","modified_gmt":"2015-11-02T09:04:14","slug":"le-figaro-jak-zit-s-lakomcem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/?p=23315","title":{"rendered":"Le Figaro: Jak \u017e\u00edt s lakomcem?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Je t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 \u017e\u00edt s \u010dlov\u011bkem, kter\u00fd nen\u00ed schopen vydat sebemen\u0161\u00ed pen\u00edz, ani\u017e by ho p\u0159itom nezal\u00e9val ledov\u00fd pot. Jak si vysv\u011btl\u00edme, \u017ee pro n\u011bkter\u00e9 lidi je tak t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 s\u00e1hnout do pen\u011b\u017eenky? Kde se bere lakota a jak se chovat, jestli\u017ee \u017eijeme s osobou, kter\u00e1 vykazuje v\u0161echny zn\u00e1mky lakomce? Odpov\u011bdi na tyto ot\u00e1zky se pokou\u0161\u00ed d\u00e1t n\u011bkolik psycholog\u016f, kter\u00e9 cituje francouzsk\u00fd list Le Figaro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

ilustra\u010dn\u00ed foto: Cohdra \/ MorgueFile<\/p>\n

„Je t\u0159eba rozli\u0161ovat mezi t\u011bmi, jim\u017e \u0159\u00edk\u00e1me skrbl\u00edci, a dobr\u00fdmi hospod\u00e1\u0159i. Skrbl\u00edci jsou patologicky neschopn\u00ed vydat pen\u00edze. Dob\u0159\u00ed hospod\u00e1\u0159i v\u0161ak mohou sklouznout k lakot\u011b,“ uv\u00e1d\u00ed psycholo\u017eka Marie-Claude Fran\u00e7oisov\u00e1-Laugierov\u00e1. „Lakomci maj\u00ed chorobn\u00fd strach, \u017ee nebudou m\u00edt pen\u00edze. \u017dij\u00ed s pocitem trval\u00e9 nejistoty a pen\u00edze jsou pro n\u011b pojistkou proti nedostatku, ztr\u00e1t\u00e1m a opu\u0161t\u011bnosti. Lakota vyjad\u0159uje pot\u0159ebu v\u0161echno kontrolovat,“ dod\u00e1v\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Sandrinin man\u017eel po\u010d\u00edt\u00e1 ka\u017ed\u00fd hal\u00ed\u0159 a denn\u011b si prohl\u00ed\u017e\u00ed sv\u016fj bankovn\u00ed \u00fa\u010det. Z\u00e1rove\u0148 m\u00e1 konfliktn\u00ed vztah s matkou. „Zd\u00e1 se, \u017ee st\u00e1le pot\u0159ebuje jej\u00ed po\u017eehn\u00e1n\u00ed, ale p\u0159itom nen\u00ed schopen s n\u00ed dob\u0159e vych\u00e1zet. Je mu \u010dty\u0159icet let, ale kdy\u017e je u rodi\u010d\u016f, je mu p\u011bt,“ \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 Sandrine.<\/p>\n

K Sandrin\u011b je sp\u00ed\u0161e pozorn\u00fd, ale nen\u00ed schopen br\u00e1t \u017eivot s lehkost\u00ed a bezstarostnost\u00ed. „Ka\u017ed\u00fd v\u00fddaj je d\u016fvodem k vyjedn\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed, dovolen\u00e1 prob\u00edh\u00e1 \u0161patn\u011b, proto\u017ee m\u00e1 st\u00e1le obavy o pen\u00edze, kter\u00e9 po\u0159\u00e1d po\u010d\u00edt\u00e1. Je to vy\u010derp\u00e1vaj\u00edc\u00ed a deprimuj\u00edc\u00ed,“ sv\u011b\u0159uje se Sandrine.<\/p>\n

„Osoby trp\u00edc\u00ed lakotou se dok\u00e1\u017eou radovat jedin\u011b tehdy, kdy\u017e hromad\u00ed pen\u00edze,“ uv\u00e1d\u00ed psychoanalyti\u010dka Laura G\u00e9linov\u00e1. „Je pro n\u011b \u010dasto nemo\u017en\u00e9 ud\u011blat druh\u00e9mu radost, proto\u017ee by to znamenalo v\u00fddaje. Skrblictv\u00ed nelze sm\u011b\u0161ovat s nedostatkem u\u0161lechtilosti. \u010casto to je siln\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e oni. Skrbl\u00edci jsou schopni v\u011bnovat druh\u00e9mu \u010das, poskytnout mu dar v jin\u00e9 podob\u011b. P\u0159ese v\u0161echno je mo\u017en\u00e9 s nimi \u017e\u00edt,“ zd\u016fraz\u0148uje.<\/p>\n

Kdy\u017e se v\u0161ak lakota projevuje i mimo pen\u00edze, v neschopnosti d\u00e1vat, je to mnohem hor\u0161\u00ed. „Jsou to \u010dasto lid\u00e9, kte\u0159\u00ed za\u017eili nedostatek, a\u0165 u\u017e hmotn\u00fd nebo citov\u00fd. Posedlost pen\u011bzi m\u016f\u017ee vzniknout v d\u016fsledku traumatizuj\u00edc\u00edho z\u00e1\u017eitku, ztr\u00e1t\u011b zam\u011bstn\u00e1n\u00ed, \u00famrt\u00ed. M\u016f\u017ee v\u0161ak poch\u00e1zet i z d\u011btstv\u00ed, z pocitu nejistoty, kter\u00fd se projevuje takov\u00fdm vztahem k pen\u011bz\u016fm ,“ \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 Marie-Claude Fran\u00e7oisov\u00e1-Laugierov\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Na ot\u00e1zku, jak \u017e\u00edt s lakomcem, odpov\u011bd\u011bla drtiv\u00e1 v\u011bt\u0161ina: „Ut\u00e9ct!“ „Lakomce nem\u016f\u017ee nic zm\u011bnit, \u017eila jsem s takov\u00fdm typem sedm let a byla to hr\u016fza. Koupit chleba? Na to reagoval: P\u0159ece v\u00ed\u0161, \u017ee nikdy nem\u00e1m drobn\u00e9!“ uv\u00e1d\u00ed St\u00e9phanie. Lakota p\u0159esahuje \u010dist\u011b finan\u010dn\u00ed r\u00e1mec, je to nesnesiteln\u00fd styl \u017eivota pro toho, kdo chce \u017e\u00edt jako ostatn\u00ed.<\/p>\n

\u017dijeme-li s lakomcem, je nezbytn\u011b nutn\u00e9 b\u00fdt finan\u010dn\u011b nez\u00e1visl\u00ed. „D\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1 je finan\u010dn\u00ed nez\u00e1vislost. Pokud tomu tak nen\u00ed, st\u00e1v\u00e1 se takov\u00fd \u017eivot rychle \u017eal\u00e1\u0159em,“ podot\u00fdk\u00e1 Marie-Claude Fran\u00e7oisov\u00e1 Laugierov\u00e1. „Pot\u0159ebovala jsem 150 eur (asi 4000 K\u010d). P\u016fj\u010dil mi je a prvn\u00edho n\u00e1sleduj\u00edc\u00edho m\u011bs\u00edce o\u010dek\u00e1val, \u017ee mu to vr\u00e1t\u00edm. A to jsme \u017eili spole\u010dn\u011b! Tak jsme se rozlou\u010dili,“ sv\u011b\u0159uje se Roxane.<\/p>\n

Sylvie zase l\u00ed\u010d\u00ed, jak jej\u00ed b\u00fdval\u00fd man\u017eel „zapom\u00ednal“ na v\u00fdro\u010d\u00ed. „M\u011bli jsme sedmilet\u00e9 v\u00fdro\u010d\u00ed svatby. Koupila jsem si prsten, kter\u00fd se mi l\u00edbil, a pak jsem mu \u0159ekla, aby mi ho zabalil a daroval. Nakonec mi po velk\u00e9m vykrucov\u00e1n\u00ed prsten zaplatil. Pak jsme se stejn\u011b rozvedli,“ \u0159\u00edk\u00e1.<\/p>\n

U osob, kter\u00e9 jsou lakotou patologicky posti\u017eeny, je t\u0159eba uva\u017eovat o terapii. „Jde vlastn\u011b o obsedantn\u011b kompulzivn\u00ed poruchu. Lakota se podle m\u00e9ho n\u00e1zoru bl\u00ed\u017e\u00ed anorexii. Je to finan\u010dn\u00ed anorexie, ale princip je podobn\u00fd. U\u010dit se ka\u017ed\u00fd den vydat trochu pen\u011bz, jednou t\u00fddn\u011b koupit n\u011bjak\u00fd d\u00e1rek, to jsou cvi\u010den\u00ed, kter\u00e1 mohou upravit pom\u011br k pen\u011bz\u016fm. „Budeme-li v\u0161ak l\u00e9\u010dit jen symptom, choroba se projev\u00ed v jin\u00e9 podob\u011b. Je nutn\u00e9 pochopit, pro\u010d posti\u017een\u00fd dosp\u011bl do stavu, kdy se dok\u00e1\u017ee t\u011b\u0161it jen ze zdr\u017eenlivosti, jak\u00e1 hlubok\u00e9 obavy se za t\u00edm skr\u00fdvaj\u00ed,“ upozor\u0148uje Laura G\u00e9linov\u00e1.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Je t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 \u017e\u00edt s \u010dlov\u011bkem, kter\u00fd nen\u00ed schopen vydat sebemen\u0161\u00ed pen\u00edz, ani\u017e by ho p\u0159itom nezal\u00e9val ledov\u00fd pot. Jak si vysv\u011btl\u00edme, \u017ee pro n\u011bkter\u00e9 lidi […]<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":14576,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-23315","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spolecnost"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23315","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=23315"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23315\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/14576"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=23315"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=23315"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=23315"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}