{"id":28490,"date":"2017-06-20T10:41:56","date_gmt":"2017-06-20T08:41:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/?p=28490"},"modified":"2017-06-20T10:42:02","modified_gmt":"2017-06-20T08:42:02","slug":"jak-v-paru-prerozdelit-mentalni-zatez","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/?p=28490","title":{"rendered":"Jak v p\u00e1ru p\u0159erozd\u011blit ment\u00e1ln\u00ed z\u00e1t\u011b\u017e?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Term\u00edn „ment\u00e1ln\u00ed z\u00e1t\u011b\u017e“ obvykle zna\u010d\u00ed situaci, kdy v\u0161edn\u00ed logistika a organizace spo\u010d\u00edv\u00e1 p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm na bedrech \u017een, p\u00ed\u0161e francouzsk\u00fd t\u00fdden\u00edk L\u00b4Express. Ale co si o tom mysl\u00ed mu\u017ei? Jak pohl\u00ed\u017eej\u00ed na rozd\u011blen\u00ed \u00fakol\u016f v rodin\u011b?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Po l\u00e9tech koment\u00e1\u0159\u016f k nerovn\u00e9mu rozd\u011blen\u00ed dom\u00e1c\u00edch \u00fakol\u016f a k probl\u00e9m\u016fm spojen\u00ed profesion\u00e1ln\u00edho a soukrom\u00e9ho \u017eivota se v\u00fdraz „ment\u00e1ln\u00ed z\u00e1t\u011b\u017e“ obvykle t\u00fdkal toho, \u017ee \u017eeny v\u017edy v dom\u00e1cnosti pracuj\u00ed v\u00edce. To ony v\u017edy musej\u00ed myslet na v\u0161echno: na p\u0159\u00edpravu d\u011bt\u00ed do \u0161koly i na to, kdy m\u00e1 kter\u00fd \u010dlen rodiny j\u00edt k l\u00e9ka\u0159i. Jde o \u0159\u00edd\u00edc\u00ed, organiza\u010dn\u00ed a pl\u00e1novac\u00ed \u010dinnost, kter\u00e1 je z\u00e1rove\u0148 nehmatateln\u00e1, nevyhnuteln\u00e1 a trval\u00e1 a jej\u00edm\u017e c\u00edlem je uspokojit pot\u0159eby ka\u017ed\u00e9ho \u010dlena rodiny.<\/p>\n

Zat\u00edmco matka \u017eongluje mezi p\u0159\u00edpravou ve\u010de\u0159e a zkou\u0161en\u00edm d\u011bt\u00ed z probran\u00e9 l\u00e1tky ve \u0161kole, otec se pohodln\u011b usad\u00ed na pohovce a d\u00e1 si sklenku. „V takov\u00e9 sc\u00e9n\u011b se dob\u0159e pozn\u00e1v\u00e1m,“ \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 dvaat\u0159icetilet\u00fd St\u00e9phane. „Rovn\u011b\u017e m\u00e1m tendenci nechat man\u017eelku p\u0159ipravovat j\u00eddlo pro na\u0161i ro\u010dn\u00ed dcerku. Ale mysl\u00edm si, \u017ee je tak trochu maniak. Kdyby n\u00e1dob\u00ed neumyla v\u010das, nic tak hrozn\u00e9ho by se nestalo,“ dod\u00e1v\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Dev\u011btadvacetilet\u00fd Jean-Baptiste soud\u00ed, \u017ee hlavn\u00ed je ot\u00e1zka „\u00farovn\u011b po\u017eadavk\u016f“. „Jako mu\u017e si mysl\u00edm, \u017ee na\u0161e tolerance v\u016f\u010di \u0161p\u00edn\u011b a nepo\u0159\u00e1dku je v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed, ne\u017e je tomu u \u017een. Je tedy snadn\u00e9 \u0159\u00edci: to je jej\u00ed probl\u00e9m, jestli\u017ee pova\u017euje d\u016fm za pln\u00fd \u0161p\u00edny. Jde pravd\u011bpodobn\u011b o ot\u00e1zku v\u00fdchovy a jist\u00e9 laxnosti v\u016f\u010di chlapc\u016fm. D\u00edvky b\u00fdvaj\u00ed brzy pod tlakem: musej\u00ed b\u00fdt po\u0159\u00e1dn\u00e9, tak, aby se jim nedalo nic vytknout,“ \u0159\u00edk\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Z toho v dosp\u011bl\u00e9m v\u011bku plyne jak\u00e1si forma d\u011btin\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed, kterou mu\u017ei n\u011bkdy t\u011b\u017eko sn\u00e1\u0161ej\u00ed. „M\u00e1m-li to \u0159\u00edci up\u0159\u00edmn\u011b, n\u011bkdy m\u00e1m dojem, \u017ee n\u00e1m \u017eena nahrazuje matku,“ soud\u00ed Jean-Baptiste. „Nesm\u00edm nic \u0159\u00edci, p\u0159i sebemen\u0161\u00ed iniciativ\u011b m\u011b \u017eena odm\u00edtne s t\u00edm, \u017ee to ud\u011bl\u00e1 sama,“ st\u011b\u017euje si St\u00e9phane. To vede k tomu, \u017ee se mu\u017e c\u00edt\u00ed st\u00e1le neu\u017eite\u010dn\u00fd.<\/p>\n

Neza\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 snad probl\u00e9m ment\u00e1ln\u00ed z\u00e1t\u011b\u017ee ji\u017e v ran\u00e9m d\u011btstv\u00ed? Sv\u011bd\u010d\u00ed to v ka\u017ed\u00e9m p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b o na\u0161em sklonu opakovat, ani\u017e bychom si toho byli v\u011bdomi, „tradi\u010dn\u00ed“ rozd\u011blen\u00ed dom\u00e1c\u00edch prac\u00ed. „Vzpom\u00edn\u00e1m si, jak m\u016fj otec sed\u011bl na pohovce a \u0159\u00edkal matce: tady se n\u011bco p\u00e1l\u00ed, ani\u017e by se zvedl,“ sv\u011b\u0159uje se p\u011btadvacetilet\u00fd Edouard. „Pravd\u011bpodobn\u011b to m\u00e1 vliv na m\u00e9 postoje v man\u017eelstv\u00ed s Johannou. Ale sna\u017e\u00edm se br\u00e1t si na starost r\u016fzn\u00e9 z\u00e1le\u017eitosti a nap\u0159\u00edklad kdy\u017e jsme se st\u011bhovali, montoval jsem n\u00e1bytek a opravoval ho,“ podot\u00fdk\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Rozd\u011blen\u00ed rol\u00ed mezi mu\u017eem-kutilem a \u017eenou staraj\u00edc\u00ed se o \u0159\u00e1dn\u00fd chod dom\u00e1cnosti \u010din\u00ed ze sou\u010dasn\u00fdch p\u00e1r\u016f d\u011bdice dlouh\u00e9 tradice, ale tak\u00e9 sv\u011bd\u010d\u00ed o ur\u010dit\u00e9 form\u011b pragmatismu. „Doma se star\u00e1m o faktury, poji\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed a administrativu,“ \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 Jean-Baptiste. „To se zd\u00e1 b\u00fdt velmi genderov\u00e9, jako kdyby bylo na mu\u017ei, aby se staral o pen\u00edze. Realita je prost\u0161\u00ed: ona to nesn\u00e1\u0161\u00ed. Proto si mysl\u00edm, \u017ee rovn\u011b\u017e nesu jistou ment\u00e1ln\u00ed z\u00e1t\u011b\u017e, kdy\u017e se star\u00e1m o to, co ji nezaj\u00edm\u00e1,“ soud\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Ot\u00e1zka ment\u00e1ln\u00ed z\u00e1t\u011b\u017ee n\u00e1s tedy p\u0159iv\u00e1d\u00ed k r\u016fznosti na\u0161ich z\u00e1lib a zp\u016fsobu, jak se zhost\u00edme toho, co na n\u00e1s z\u00e1vis\u00ed. „Je t\u0159eba tak\u00e9 \u0159\u00edci, \u017ee kutilstv\u00ed je v\u00edce hodnoceno ne\u017e jin\u00e9 aktivity. Myt\u00ed n\u00e1dob\u00ed nab\u00edz\u00ed m\u00e9n\u011b uspokojen\u00ed a svobody ne\u017e restaurov\u00e1n\u00ed n\u00e1bytku,“ soud\u00ed Jean-Baptiste.<\/p>\n

Je tedy na ka\u017ed\u00e9m z n\u00e1s nau\u010dit se n\u011bkdy zbavit sv\u00e9 ment\u00e1ln\u00ed z\u00e1t\u011b\u017ee a naopak p\u0159ijmout ment\u00e1ln\u00ed z\u00e1t\u011b\u017e toho druh\u00e9ho, abychom tak dok\u00e1zali nal\u00e9zt uspokojivou rovnov\u00e1hu pro partnery, ale p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm pro sebe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Term\u00edn „ment\u00e1ln\u00ed z\u00e1t\u011b\u017e“ obvykle zna\u010d\u00ed situaci, kdy v\u0161edn\u00ed logistika a organizace spo\u010d\u00edv\u00e1 p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm na bedrech \u017een, p\u00ed\u0161e francouzsk\u00fd t\u00fdden\u00edk L\u00b4Express. Ale co si o tom […]<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":28491,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-28490","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-zpravy"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28490","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=28490"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28490\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/28491"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=28490"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=28490"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=28490"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}