{"id":29338,"date":"2017-10-22T23:18:59","date_gmt":"2017-10-22T21:18:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/?p=29338"},"modified":"2017-10-22T23:18:59","modified_gmt":"2017-10-22T21:18:59","slug":"lexpress-co-delat-kdyz-je-partner-workoholik","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/?p=29338","title":{"rendered":"L\u00b4Express: Co d\u011blat, kdy\u017e je partner workoholik"},"content":{"rendered":"

Rovnov\u00e1ha v man\u017eelstv\u00ed m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt ot\u0159esena, jestli\u017ee jeden z partner\u016f v\u011bnuje pr\u00e1ci p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 mnoho \u010dasu. Jak\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem dos\u00e1hnout toho, aby v p\u00e1ru op\u011bt zavl\u00e1dla spokojenost a rovnov\u00e1ha? Na to se sna\u017e\u00ed odpov\u011bd\u011bt francouzsk\u00fd t\u00fdden\u00edk L\u00b4Express.<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u00e9line pracuje pro velkou agenturu public relations. Na sv\u00e9m postu je teprve n\u011bkolik m\u011bs\u00edc\u016f, a tak se sna\u017e\u00ed dok\u00e1zat, \u017ee je ve sv\u00e9 pozici opr\u00e1vn\u011bn\u011b. Nepo\u010d\u00edt\u00e1 hodiny zasv\u011bcen\u00e9 pr\u00e1ci. A to do t\u00e9 m\u00edry, \u017ee ji jej\u00ed man\u017eel, jen\u017e je u\u010ditelem, vid\u00ed jen o v\u00edkendech.<\/p>\n

Adrien je in\u017een\u00fdr. Jako vy\u0161\u0161\u00ed k\u00e1dr ve stavebn\u00ed firm\u011b tr\u00e1v\u00ed mnoho \u010dasu v cizin\u011b. „Moje \u017eena u\u017e toho m\u00e1 dost a j\u00e1 m\u00e1m pocit, \u017ee neuvid\u00edm ani vyr\u016fstat d\u011bti,“ \u0159\u00edk\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Takov\u00fdch p\u0159\u00edpad\u016f, kdy je man\u017eelstv\u00ed ohro\u017eeno pracovn\u00edm p\u0159et\u00ed\u017een\u00edm, je mnoho. \u0160et\u0159en\u00ed institutu Opinion Way z roku 2014 uk\u00e1zalo, \u017ee 29 procent dot\u00e1zan\u00fdch soudilo, \u017ee pr\u00e1ce ji\u017e po\u0161kodila jejich milostn\u00fd \u017eivot. \u017de je pr\u00e1ce zdrojem man\u017eelsk\u00fdch konflikt\u016f, se domn\u00edvalo 22 procent a sedm procent uvedlo, \u017ee byla p\u0159\u00ed\u010dinou rozchodu. Zna\u010dn\u00e1 \u010d\u00e1st dot\u00e1zan\u00fdch, p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm zam\u011bstnanci ve vy\u0161\u0161\u00edch pozic\u00edch (34 procent), se sv\u011b\u0159ila, \u017ee nen\u00ed schopna odd\u011blit pr\u00e1ci od soukrom\u00e9ho \u017eivota.<\/p>\n

Prvn\u00ed, co je t\u0159eba podle psychologa Philippa Laurenta u\u010dinit, je odv\u00e1\u017eit se mluvit o tom s t\u00edm, kdo tolik pracuje. Ten samoz\u0159ejm\u011b mus\u00ed tato varov\u00e1n\u00ed vyslechnout.<\/p>\n

Takov\u00fd \u010dlov\u011bk si toti\u017e \u010dasto jen t\u011b\u017eko uv\u011bdomuje, jak je prac\u00ed zavalen. „Mnoz\u00ed si mysl\u00ed, \u017ee pracuj\u00ed tak, jak je t\u0159eba, zat\u00edmco jsou na pokraji vyho\u0159en\u00ed,“ \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 Laurent. Nesm\u00edme p\u0159itom druh\u00e9ho obvi\u0148ovat, ale sp\u00ed\u0161e hovo\u0159it o sv\u00fdch pocitech jako: byl(a) bych r\u00e1d(a), kdyby ses vracel(a) dom\u016f d\u0159\u00edve; nem\u00e1\u0161 moc pr\u00e1ce?<\/p>\n

Philippe Laurent rovn\u011b\u017e rad\u00ed zav\u00e9st jak\u00fdsi ritu\u00e1l jako vy\u010dlenit si denn\u011b p\u00e1r minut na rozmluvu ve dvou, a to p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm o tom, co se poda\u0159ilo. Negativn\u00edmu je nutno se vyh\u00fdbat. Sandrine a David tento zvyk zavedli u\u017e p\u0159ed n\u011bkolika lety. „V\u00edm, \u017ee se pot\u0159ebuje sv\u011b\u0159it se v\u0161\u00edm stresuj\u00edc\u00edm. J\u00e1 zase m\u00e1m pot\u0159ebu mluvit o sv\u00e9 pr\u00e1ci v nemocnici – jsem zdravotn\u00ed sestra,“ \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 Sandrine. Pak se k t\u00e9matu pr\u00e1ce u\u017e nevracej\u00ed, ale mluv\u00ed o p\u0159\u00ed\u0161t\u00ed dovolen\u00e9, o d\u011btech.<\/p>\n

Konflikty rovn\u011b\u017e vych\u00e1zej\u00ed z nevyv\u00e1\u017eenosti. Jestli\u017ee jeden z rodi\u010d\u016f nepracuje nebo pracuje jen na \u010d\u00e1ste\u010dn\u00fd \u00favazek, je nutn\u00e9 respektovat pr\u00e1ci obou rodi\u010d\u016f, tedy i toho, kter\u00fd se star\u00e1 o d\u011bti.<\/p>\n

Pr\u00e1ci o v\u00edkendech je t\u0159eba zak\u00e1zat. V dob\u011b chytr\u00fdch telefon\u016f a laptop\u016f to nen\u00ed snadn\u00e9. Znamen\u00e1 to p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm ned\u00edvat se na po\u0161tu t\u00fdkaj\u00edc\u00ed se zam\u011bstn\u00e1n\u00ed. Zd\u00e1 se sice, \u017ee to nezabere p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 \u010dasu, ale hroz\u00ed, \u017ee \u010dlov\u011bk zab\u0159edne do pr\u00e1ce a rodinn\u00fd \u017eivot z\u016fstane stranou.<\/p>\n

B\u00e9n\u00e9dicte, jej\u00ed\u017e man\u017eel je workoholik, se vzdala p\u0159edstavy, \u017ee bude \u017e\u00edt s n\u011bk\u00fdm, komu sta\u010d\u00ed 35 hodin pr\u00e1ce t\u00fddn\u011b. S man\u017eelem si v\u0161ak vy\u010dlenili jeden ve\u010der v t\u00fddnu, kter\u00fd pat\u0159\u00ed jen jim.<\/p>\n

N\u011bkdy je u\u017eite\u010dn\u00e9 pt\u00e1t se na d\u016fvody pracovn\u00edho p\u0159et\u00ed\u017een\u00ed, kter\u00e9 trv\u00e1 dlouho. „N\u011bkdy ten, kdo pracuje st\u00e1le p\u0159es\u010das a tr\u00e1v\u00ed v\u00edkendy u po\u010d\u00edta\u010de, to d\u011bl\u00e1 proto, aby p\u0159ed n\u011b\u010d\u00edm utekl. Pak je dobr\u00e9 si ve dvou vyjasnit, pro\u010d si nen\u00ed schopen u\u0161et\u0159it \u010das pro n\u011bco jin\u00e9ho ne\u017e pr\u00e1ci,“ zd\u016fraz\u0148uje Philippe Laurent.<\/p>\n

Elise, kter\u00e1 nebyla schopn\u00e1 odlo\u017eit pr\u00e1ci ani o dovolen\u00e9, si nakonec uv\u011bdomila, \u017ee se vlastn\u011b vyh\u00fdb\u00e1 kontaktu se snoubencem. „Kdy\u017e mi dal ultim\u00e1tum, bu\u010f on, nebo pr\u00e1ce, pochopila jsem, \u017ee ho nemiluji,“ \u0159\u00edk\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Sandra vypr\u00e1v\u00ed, jak jej\u00ed man\u017eel, kter\u00fd s prac\u00ed i spal, nakonec souhlasil s terapi\u00ed s c\u00edlem zjistit, co za t\u00edm v\u011bz\u00ed. „Pozvolna si uv\u011bdomoval, \u017ee m\u00e1 strach, \u017ee p\u0159ijde o pr\u00e1ci jako jeho otec, kdy\u017e byl mlad\u0161\u00ed. Terapie mu hodn\u011b pomohla v tom, aby se na v\u011bc d\u00edval s odstupem, a nepochybn\u011b zachr\u00e1nila na\u0161e man\u017eelstv\u00ed,“ sv\u011b\u0159uje se Sandra.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Rovnov\u00e1ha v man\u017eelstv\u00ed m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt ot\u0159esena, jestli\u017ee jeden z partner\u016f v\u011bnuje pr\u00e1ci p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 mnoho \u010dasu. Jak\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem dos\u00e1hnout toho, aby v p\u00e1ru op\u011bt zavl\u00e1dla spokojenost […]<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-29338","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-zpravy"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29338","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=29338"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29338\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=29338"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=29338"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=29338"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}