{"id":30014,"date":"2018-01-17T10:18:19","date_gmt":"2018-01-17T09:18:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/?p=30014"},"modified":"2018-01-17T11:49:10","modified_gmt":"2018-01-17T10:49:10","slug":"psychoterapeuti-adolescenti-casto-lzou-aby-chranili-sve-soukromi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/?p=30014","title":{"rendered":"Psychoterapeuti: Adolescenti \u010dasto l\u017eou, aby chr\u00e1nili sv\u00e9 soukrom\u00ed"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dosp\u00edvaj\u00edc\u00ed ml\u00e1de\u017e m\u00e1 \u010dasto jen mlhav\u00e9 pon\u011bt\u00ed o pravd\u011b a \u010dasto flirtuje se l\u017e\u00ed. Pro\u010d je tomu tak? Jak m\u00e1me reagovat, kdy\u017e n\u00e1\u0161 adolescent l\u017ee? Na tyto ot\u00e1zky se pokou\u0161\u00ed odpov\u011bd\u011bt ve sv\u00e9m \u010dl\u00e1nku francouzsk\u00fd t\u00fdden\u00edk L\u00b4Express.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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V posledn\u00edch m\u011bs\u00edc\u00edch za\u010dal \u010dtrn\u00e1ctilet\u00fd Arthur sv\u00fdm rodi\u010d\u016fm lh\u00e1t. „Nebyly to \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e9 velk\u00e9 l\u017ei, ale jak\u00e9si \u00fapravy pravdy. Za\u010dal p\u0159ed n\u00e1mi tajit zn\u00e1mky ze \u0161koly. \u0158ekl n\u00e1m, \u017ee jde sp\u00e1t ke kamar\u00e1dovi, ale ve skute\u010dnosti \u0161el na ve\u010d\u00edrek,“ \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 jeho matka Anne-Sophie. Bylo to \u00fapln\u011b nov\u00e9 chov\u00e1n\u00ed, hoch dosud rodi\u010d\u016fm \u0159\u00edkal pravdu.<\/p>\n

Patn\u00e1ctilet\u00e1 Manon m\u00e1 rovn\u011b\u017e sklony pohr\u00e1vat si s pravdou, \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 jej\u00ed matka Christelle. „P\u0159\u00edsahala, \u017ee nekou\u0159\u00ed. J\u00e1 ale nejsem dne\u0161n\u00ed, c\u00edtila jsem v\u016fni tab\u00e1ku. Tak\u00e9 za\u010dala chodit za \u0161kolu,“ uv\u00e1d\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Jsou adolescenti kompulzivn\u00edmi lh\u00e1\u0159i, nebo jsme v\u016f\u010di jejich lhan\u00ed citliv\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, proto\u017ee je z\u0159eteln\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, ne\u017e kdy\u017e byli d\u011btmi? Co o nich tyto l\u017ei vypov\u00eddaj\u00ed? A co vypov\u00eddaj\u00ed o n\u00e1s, jejich rodi\u010d\u00edch? Jak rozli\u0161\u00edme drobn\u00e9 l\u017ei od t\u011bch v\u00fdznamn\u00fdch?<\/p>\n

„Mysl\u00edm, \u017ee problematick\u00e9 jsou ty l\u017ei, kter\u00e9 adolescenta n\u011bjak ohro\u017euj\u00ed,“ odpov\u00edd\u00e1 psychoterapeutka Violaine Gellyov\u00e1. Kdy\u017e t\u0159eba adolescent tvrd\u00ed, \u017ee spal u kamar\u00e1da, a ve skute\u010dnosti se vr\u00e1t\u00ed ve \u010dty\u0159i hodiny r\u00e1no z ve\u010d\u00edrku, m\u016f\u017ee se st\u00e1t, \u017ee konzumoval drogy nebo \u017ee usedl do auta, kter\u00e9 \u0159\u00eddil n\u011bkdo opil\u00fd. Nebo jde o le\u017e, kter\u00e1 zakr\u00fdv\u00e1 hlub\u0161\u00ed probl\u00e9my. V\u011bt\u0161inou v\u0161ak jde o drobn\u00e9 „\u00fapravy pravdy“, kdy se adolescent sna\u017e\u00ed uniknout zodpov\u011bdnosti, uji\u0161\u0165uje psychoterapeutka.<\/p>\n

Dosp\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed je velmi rozporupln\u00e9 obdob\u00ed, kdy adolescent sn\u00ed o tom, \u017ee je dosp\u011bl\u00fd, ale nedok\u00e1\u017ee p\u0159evz\u00edt zodpov\u011bdnost za sv\u00e9 \u010diny a jedn\u00e1n\u00ed. Le\u017e je \u00fanik, zp\u016fsob, jak nazna\u010dit rodi\u010d\u016fm, \u017ee je st\u00e1le d\u00edt\u011btem.<\/p>\n

„Nejsem si jist\u00e1, zda adolescenti l\u017eou v\u00edce ne\u017e d\u011bti,“ soud\u00ed psycholo\u017eka Florence Millotov\u00e1. Le\u017e m\u00e1 podle n\u00ed svou d\u016fle\u017eitost v utv\u00e1\u0159en\u00ed osobnosti. „Umo\u017e\u0148uje m\u00edt svou tajnou zahr\u00e1dku. Pro d\u00edt\u011b to znamen\u00e1, \u017ee nemus\u00ed v\u0161echno \u0159\u00edkat rodi\u010d\u016fm. D\u00edt\u011b, kter\u00e9 nikdy nel\u017ee, je pon\u011bkud zvl\u00e1\u0161tn\u00ed,“ \u0159\u00edk\u00e1.<\/p>\n

L\u017ei dosp\u00edvaj\u00edc\u00ed ml\u00e1de\u017ee \u010dasto sv\u011bd\u010d\u00ed o snaze nep\u0159iznat nedostatek nebo selh\u00e1n\u00ed. „\u010c\u00edm v\u00edce se rodi\u010de nervuj\u00ed a kladou vysok\u00e9 po\u017eadavky, nap\u0159\u00edklad pokud jde o v\u00fdsledky ve \u0161kole, t\u00edm v\u00edce m\u00e1 adolescent tendenci skr\u00fdvat \u0161patn\u00e9 zn\u00e1mky. A to nikoli pro tu radost, \u017ee rodi\u010d\u016fm l\u017ee, ale proto, aby si u\u0161et\u0159il nep\u0159\u00edjemnosti a poko\u0159en\u00ed,“ uv\u00e1d\u00ed Millotov\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Ostatn\u011b obdob\u00ed dosp\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed je za\u010d\u00e1tkem odpout\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed od rodi\u010d\u016f. Adolescent pot\u0159ebuje pro\u017e\u00edt vlastn\u00ed zku\u0161enosti, a to i pomoc\u00ed l\u017e\u00ed. Nel\u017ee „proti“ sv\u00fdm rodi\u010d\u016fm, ale proto, aby dos\u00e1hl sv\u00e9ho c\u00edle, kter\u00fdm m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt uveden\u00fd ve\u010d\u00edrek. Chce dos\u00e1hnout toho, po \u010dem tou\u017e\u00ed, a p\u0159itom si udr\u017eet l\u00e1sku sv\u00fdch rodi\u010d\u016f.<\/p>\n

Ptejme se dosp\u00edvaj\u00edc\u00edho hocha \u010di d\u00edvky na d\u016fvody l\u017ei. Psychologov\u00e9 se shoduj\u00ed v tom, \u017ee je nelze ignorovat. „Kdy\u017e to je doprov\u00e1zeno zm\u011bnou postoje, smutkem nebo zhor\u0161en\u00edm prosp\u011bchu, je \u017e\u00e1douc\u00ed adolescentovi uk\u00e1zat, \u017ee vid\u00edme, co se d\u011bje,“ rad\u00ed Millotov\u00e1. Gellyov\u00e1 rovn\u011b\u017e navrhuje pt\u00e1t se adolescenta na d\u016fvody l\u017ei. „Probl\u00e9m nen\u00ed ve l\u017ei sam\u00e9, ale sp\u00ed\u0161e v tom, \u017ee adolescent odm\u00edt\u00e1 postavit se \u010delem k d\u016fsledk\u016fm sv\u00e9ho jedn\u00e1n\u00ed,“ \u0159\u00edk\u00e1.<\/p>\n

„Velk\u00fdm paradoxem dne\u0161ka je to, \u017ee soci\u00e1ln\u00ed s\u00edt\u011b a mobiln\u00ed telefony umo\u017e\u0148uj\u00ed adolescenty kontrolovat a\u017e p\u0159\u00edli\u0161. To je \u010dasto p\u0159im\u011bje k tomu, \u017ee d\u016fkladn\u011b propracuj\u00ed svou strategii, aby unikli dohledu rodi\u010d\u016f. Tak se mohou dostat do nebezpe\u010dn\u00e9 situace,“ zd\u016fraz\u0148uje Millotov\u00e1.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dosp\u00edvaj\u00edc\u00ed ml\u00e1de\u017e m\u00e1 \u010dasto jen mlhav\u00e9 pon\u011bt\u00ed o pravd\u011b a \u010dasto flirtuje se l\u017e\u00ed. Pro\u010d je tomu tak? Jak m\u00e1me reagovat, kdy\u017e n\u00e1\u0161 adolescent l\u017ee? […]<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":24122,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-30014","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-zpravy"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30014","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=30014"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30014\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/24122"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=30014"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=30014"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.invarena.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=30014"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}